Posted by: chrisdavis | February 25, 2011

Please Don’t Homeschool Your Children! – Part 10


CHANGING WHAT WE DO

[This is Part 10 of the Article “Please Don’t Homeschool Your Children!”]

I hope some of you have been encouraged by all I have written in this series of articles. Encouragement has always been my intention, even if I have poked a little hard at some of your paradigms. I believe most parents desire to prioritize having a relationship with the children God has given them to raise and to raise those children to become all God intended them to be. To not send children to school can be an immense lifestyle change. For some, making this change must be done in stages. If you have brought “your” children home it may be necessary (for a season) to follow a Public School model. Hopefully, that season will be short-lived.

So, then, what do you think children should be doing all day now that they are home? Here are some ways to determine what you believe:

First, and probably the most obvious way to determine what you really believe, is to ask yourself, “Is this child the constant or is this child’s education the constant?”

Next, consider how much your school is like public school—only at home. Are your children in a grade? Are you following a Scope & Sequence track that is moving your children throughout the years toward graduation? Are you using what is popularly termed “prepackaged curricula” which is filling their minds with the same information you were required to learn when you were in school? Are you teaching them this information so they can do well on the same tests every other child in the world is taking? Is what you are doing (or not doing) providing time for them to prioritize what God has gifted them to do (remember the 5,000-10,000 hours I discussed in the previous entry)? Are you resourcing these talents and giftings? Have you given a lot of thought to what they really don’t need to know, but can look up if they ever need to know it? Have you given thought to teaching them the things you were never taught but wish you had been? Have you prioritized what God has told you is important for each child to know and do? Are you struggling with using materials that have no “life” or meaning?

Or, have you stepped completely out of the lock-step, institutional, Public School model of raising children?

Our daughter went to both public and private school, but our sons never did. In fact they were never in a grade, and we rarely used anything “prepackaged” with them. It did take us a while to learn the value of not doing these things. Now, they are grown, and will tell you they are doing exactly what God put in them to do. And, they are good at what they do! Each was given the necessary 10,000 hours to become good at what they are doing…

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Responses

  1. Thanks for this series, I really enjoyed it. We basically do things the way you describe, but I have my doubts at times. 😉 So at what age, do you think, children begin to understand what their passions are? My 9 year old son (my oldest) has never really been enthusiastic about anything, and apart from his wonderful, kind and compassionate soul – no apparent giftings have been yet discovered. I’ve prayed and prayed for God to show me what his gifts are that I can nurture them and help him live a passionate life. Recently, he signed up for a pottery class and LOVED it. I am really excited to see this and so thankful for it. So, I’m just curious about when your children started discovering their passions and callings.

    • Marisa, years ago, I discovered the “Dream Poster” which may help you. I will write about this Poster in my next blog which may be later today or tomorrow. After reading the blog, tell me if it helps. If you don’t mind, I may quote what you said about “no apparent giftings yet discovered” to into the blog. Thanks, Chris

  2. Chris,

    I posted a while back on a forum about how trying to fit our children in a mold that they don’t fit doesn’t work. I had this visual in my head that trying to put my son in a mold that doesn’t fit his abilities, passions, and basically who he is- will result in some of those precious things being trimmed off in the process.

  3. Marisa,

    I hope you don’t mind that I respond. I think kids change their passions from time to time or more often. I also think that some kids take a while to find what they are passionate about. It may already be in him, he just doesn’t know it.

    I wouldn’t worry-God knows his abilities and God knows when to speak HIS plans into your son’s life. There is a perfect timing and God is never late and I have heard that He is never early either.

    • My experience is that our kids WILL change their passions. Or, perhaps, I should say, their passions become more evident as they grow through the experiences we allow them (the time and resources) to express. I will use my own three sons as examples:

      At about age 13, my oldest son became deeply interested in model rocketry and worked on model rockets for an entire year. I, of course, decided he would be the next Werner Von Braun. But, one day he became interested in model airplanes. He never flew his model airplane, but removed the engine which he then strapped to a board on the porch and worked on the engine for many weeks. Soon, he discovered the internet and began learning every computer language in existence at the time. Now, at age 30, he is a high-end computer programmer.

      My second and third sons acted in musical theater from the time they were very young. At age 20, the third son shifted from acting to film producing which he does now (age 24).

      My second son never quit acting & dancing and now (age 29) splits his time between performing on a Carnival cruise ship in the summers and musical theater in the winters.

      It seems to me that whatever we allow a child’s interests to take him or her, God is working them all into the tapestry of their future lives.

  4. I think another good thing to remember is to not get caught up in the future. We don’t know what is going to happen and there may be many twists and turns before they get there anyway. Most the stuff we are worried about never happen anyway.

    • I don’t think many would agree with you, but I certainly do…

  5. Worrying about the future is paralyzing, and we can only do what God wants us to do day by day. But I do think it’s important to be a good steward of the time we’re given.

    My concerns weren’t so much that ‘oh my goodness, i have to figure out what my kids are going to grow up to be NOW’ but how can I best use the time I’m given to nurture his growth and help him be more excited about his days as we live them in the present.


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